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Kid’s aggressive behavior, what to do

Sometimes your 2 or 3 year child can be so sweet and loving and then if he is told to do something he does not want he can turn into an outrage and even aggression, crying, yelling, throwing toys and making noises.

Then what to do?

First of all you should respond immediately when you see your child getting aggressive. It’s tempting to wait until he’s hit his brother for the third time before saying, “That’s enough!” (especially when you’ve already reprimanded him a dozen times in the last hour). Even so, it’s best to let him know instantly when he’s done something wrong.

Remove him from the situation for a brief time-out — the idea is for him to connect his behavior with the consequence and figure out that if he hits or bites, he’ll miss out on the fun.

If your child gets into the ball pit at the indoor play center and immediately starts throwing balls at other kids, take him out. Sit down with him and watch the other kids play, explaining that he can go back in when he’s ready to join the fun without hurting others.

No matter how angry you are with him, try not to yell, hit, or tell your child he’s bad. Rather than getting him to change his behavior, this simply teaches him that verbal and physical aggression are the way to go when he’s mad. Instead, showing him that you can control your temper may be the first step in helping him control his.

Stick to the plan. As much as possible, respond to aggressive acts the same way every time. The more predictable you are (“Okay, you bit Billy again — that means another time-out”), the sooner you’ll set up a pattern that your child comes to recognize and expect.

Even if he does something to mortify you in public, stick to the game plan. Most parents understand your situation — after all, we’ve all been there before.

Show and tell. After you’ve pulled your child aside, wait until he settles down a bit and then calmly and gently review what happened. Ask him if he can explain what triggered his outburst. (“Jordan, why do you think you got so mad at Scott?”) Explain that it’s perfectly natural to get angry sometimes, but it’s not okay to hit, kick, or bite. Encourage your child to find a better way to express how mad he is. Kicking a ball, pounding his fist into a pillow, asking a grown-up for help, or even just telling his playmate that he’s steamed (without yelling) are good, age-appropriate responses to anger. You can also help your youngster understand his emotions by reading a book together on the topic — try I’m SO Mad!, by Robie Harris and Nicole Hollander.

Reward good behavior. Rather than paying attention to your 2-year-old only when he misbehaves, try to catch him being good — if he asks for a turn on the swing instead of pushing another kid out of the way, for instance, or shares a toy instead of jerking it away.

Limit TV time. Innocent-looking cartoons and other so-called children’s shows are often rife with shouting, threats, shoving, and hitting. So try to monitor the programs your 2-year-old sees by watching them with him — particularly if he’s prone to aggression.

If something happens on a show that you don’t approve of, talk to your child about it: “Did you see how that bear pushed the other bear to get what he wanted? That wasn’t a very good thing to do, was it?” (The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that kids age 2 and older see no more than an hour or two of “quality” television a day — yet another reason to skip that show in the future.) You might also find that your child is aggressive when he doesn’t get enough opportunities to burn off his abundant energy. So try to provide plenty of unstructured playtime — preferably outdoors — to let him blow off steam.

In the private conversation keep these things in mind

- reinforce that you care about the child and that this discipline is all about you trying to help them be better.
- see if they understand why they are being disciplined. Too often, children are spanked, yelled at or isolated and they don’t know why, even though to an adult it seems like the reason should be obvious. Remember that you are dealing with a child’s brain and a child’s perspective. Never assume they know that what they did is wrong, even if they have been punished for it before.

- either explain to them why their action is wrong or acknowledge that they understand the situation correctly. Often, they may have a partial understanding. Fill in any blanks for them so they fully understand. Just don’t go over their head. Keep everything age-appropriate, but don’t dumb things down. Children are remarkably receptive.
- give the child other options for the future. Give them words to use or alternative actions to take. It may have been a problem of communication, or it may have been a situation that required an adult from the start. Be sure the child understands that they have these options and should use them first.
- end the conversation with another affirmation that you care about the child and are helping them. This positive ending makes it more likely that the child will be receptive to what you’ve talked about and use it in the future.


Children have Gay Parents

The actual number of children being raised by gay or lesbian parents is tough to estimate as many LGBTQ people keep their sexual orientation a secret to avoid harassment.

In Michigan, Jayne Rowse and April DeBoer are raising three adopted children at their Hazel Park home, but they’re barred from jointly adopting them because same-sex couples can’t marry in Michigan.

A sociologist testifying Wednesday at Michigan’s gay-marriage trial said children raised by same-sex parents suffer no handicap when compared to other kids. “It’s clear that being raised by same-sex parents is no disadvantage to children,” he said, broadly summarizing research in the field.

Friedman said he would benefit from seeing how the U.S. Supreme Court handles cases involving a gay marriage ban in California as well as the federal Defense of Marriage Act. Arguments are scheduled later this month in Washington.

An immediate ruling in Michigan “would not be fair to either side,” Friedman said while holding court in front of students at Wayne State University law school.

“They’re going to give us something to hang our hat on,” he said of the Supreme Court.

[N]ot one of the 59 studies referenced in the 2005 APA Brief compares a large, random, representative sample of lesbian or gay parents and their children with a large, random, representative sample of married parents and their children. The available data, which are drawn primarily from small convenience samples, are insufficient to support a strong generalizable claim either way. Such a statement would not be grounded in science. To make a generalizable claim, representative, large-sample studies are needed—many of them.


Kids Shoe Size

Every time when you begin shopping shoes you try fo find out your baby’s shoe right size. So, how to get it right?

1.stand your baby on a sheet of paper
2.make sure to uncurl his or her toes and
3.draw an outline of baby’s feet.
4.Then measure the distance between the two furthest points on the traced foot.
5. Compare the result with this tab for the right size.


Does your baby need vitamins?

If you have children under 5 years, they are healthy and have a balanced diet so do you need to give your infants vitamins? Latest researches show that even in case when everything is all right and it looks that your kids get enough of them from food they need to get vitamin D and vitamin E as a supplement additionally for truly good health and for preventing rickets.

Actually a supplement of vitamins A & D is recommended as many children of this age do not get enough of these 2 vitamins from their food. As vitamin D is sunshine vitamin which only made in skin by exposure of the skin to UV so especially it concerns Asian, African and Middle Eastern families who are living in northern European countries where sunny days last from April to September. However if you live in one of North countries, such as United Kingdom, Danemark or Finland you should to care about that because a lack of Vitamin D can cause serious medical problems.

So, you should be able to get all the vitamin D children need by eating a healthy diet, getting some summer sun and often supplement of vitamins.

Vitamin D is found in a small number of foods such as:

oily fish, such as salmon and sardines
eggs
fortified fat spreads
fortified breakfast cereals
powdered milk

The list of groups of the population which are may be at risk of not getting enough vitamin D includes
1/all pregnant and breastfeeding women
2/babies and children under five
3/older people aged 65 years and over
4/people who are not exposed to much sun
5/people which darker skin


How to get your kid eat better

There are great number advices to get your kid eat better – from getting your kids cooking to sprinkling food with some sugar and so on. But Samantha Lee, stay-at-home mom from Malaysia found a new way to encourage their kids to eat. I gues that way is much more enjoyable one.

Samantha makes food into characters, crearing movie-themed plates, superheroes, even celebrities! It’s realy worth to learn to make some of her recipes, like her on Facebook or check out her blog eatzybitzy.com.


The 15-year-old Madison Robinson came up with the idea to create for her own design flip-flops she loves to wear so much to combinate this passion with loving of drowing. Finally Madison have got the thing she desired so much. More than 30 stores placed orders the first time they exhibited at a trade show, so he hired an overseas manufacturer and started shipping in May 2011.

Madison Robinson draws all of her own designs and chooses color combinations digitally. Also she has also learned how such important things as how to pack shipments, stock the warehouse, explain her pricing, host a tradeshow booth, and make a sales pitch.

“I love to draw and I love the beach and I came home from the beach one day and I drew them and I went to my dad and I said dad look, Fish Flops and started a brand from there,” Robinson said.


Sleeping easy

Sleep is the most important thing in life. This might seem like an exaggeration, but it’s not at all. Without sleep, there is no life. Death by sleep deprivations is one of the worst and most torturous ways to die. Even the minor consequences of not getting enough sleep are dire, and have lasting effects on health. Because it’s not always very easy to get off to sleep, even when we want nothing more than just to be unconscious.

It seems that sometimes, at the times when we least want to think about them, like when we’re lying down to sleep, we are pestered by thoughts of world problems, of overheard conversations, of whipstick second growth. Here are tips for sleeping, and making the most of the hours that are allotted to you for sleeping.

Don’t drink any caffeine after midday.
Have a large and good quality bed that supports your back and keeps you comfortable.
Use very good quality bed linen, that will let your skin breathe. Linen can be expensive, so try discount and wholesale outlets like I Love Linen that stock better quality fabrics.
Don’t eat for an hour before you go to bed.
Go to bed at the same time every night. Set that time and stick to it.
Have a ritual, or something that you do before you go to bed, and let it be relaxing. Even if it’s just putting on warm sock, or reading a chapter of a book.
Do not have televisions, computers, or mobile phones in your bedroom. They will distract you and make your brain think it’s party time rather than sleep time. Plus ringing and beep beeping will wake you.


Child Support Pay

After 16 years of marriage the man, who lives in Montreal, Canada, finds suddenly out that 3 of his 4 children are not his own, and all three girls have different fathers. However the man is ordered to pay his ex-wife for all these kids as he is the only father the children have known and he raised them as his own, he is responsible as if he was the father.


George King Baby

An expecting British couple got a surprise during delivery of their baby George King named George King with the weigh 15 pounds, 7 ounces! George was kept in the hospital for four-and-a-half weeks after his birth, and doctors have kept an eye out for any lingering negative effects. The prognosis so far has been good.

“He’s a little miracle,” Mom said. “Well, big miracle, really.”


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